k guys i am trying to install my vss wire and i found out were it is on my car but it is a 80 pin connector and it says online that the wire is on pin 13 how do i determine which wire is the vss?

Virtually every connection is numbered, usually at the outer pins for each row. The numbering can be very small though, so make sure you have good light and look closely.

i am just checking it out now and there are only letters on the sides of the rows

so no body knows what these letters mean because there are no numbers on it