couple things, yes the amps need to be to a clean solid ground, not a painted surface. so grab a piece of sos pad or steel wool or sand paper and start rubbing.
As far as the cap is concerned, it doesnt sound like you have wired it up correctly since you feel the cap 'blowing' could prevent the amp from coming on. What I mean is, the cap should be wired PARALLEL not series. I am just guessing you wired it in series cuz of your comment that it could some how prevent the amp coming on if it was not functioning. In essence you should be able to take the cap out of the circuit and connect the wires that are connected to it the same way and the amp should come on. Oh and honestly, even a 1 F cap is probably not going to do much for you in your application.
Also, it seems that you didnt charge the cap properly the first time. You were sure as hell not suppose to connect it and just turn it on like that. I have never seen a cap designed for that type of initial charge. Every cap I have seen for the car requires you to use a resistor and slowly charge it and to charge if for some time.. not instant like you did. So check your instruction manual to see, but that shouldnt have cause the amp to not turn on.
Check your fuses on the amp, you could temp check the remote by jumping a wire from the + to the remote on the amp, that will tell you if the amp is getting power and if the remote is good, if the amp lights up but no sound, then maybe rca's or sub out, or or... we will cross that bridge when we get to it.