ok well first things first. My installer has been doing this for 10 years so I feel pretty good about his skills and he is pretty methodical in his thinking.
Second, the problem lies in that my car is a new model for this year (2009 Audi TTS) and I dont think the specs have been updated.
Third, my car came with factory navigation and a system called bose Audipilot.
forth, the Audi uses a canbus DIGITAL turn on for the amp and thus no longer a 12v switch.
the bose amp is even stamped TT CB which means that its sending a signal saying "im on" or "im off" so there is no constant there to tap into.
So to get around this, we have used the existing wiring to bypass the bose amp and have it hooked directly into the Pioneer.
Incidentally, we are using a harness by a company called connects2 that interfaces with the quadlock. Problem is they are only up to 2008 and have not updated their programming for this because this type of model has not been available to them.
This system has 13 speakers and I dont feel like the head unit has enough to drive them all hence the poor sound.
I have possibly found an adapter from a company in Germany Called Dietz (dietz 17500 http://www.dietz2.biz/dokumente%5C17005_D-E.pdf) which looks like it might to the trick but the language barrier has been brutal and I cant find a way to order it yet as they are unwilling to ship to the states
so if you have some thoughts, suggestions, questions etc etc I would be very greatful for your assistance