Sorry if this may be a stupid question but I have the Avic-X930BT and I'm trying to do the bypass with the mute wire and I can't remove the pin without destroying the plug. Any advice or instructions to do this properly?

Page 2 of of the following link has video showing you what to do.

http://avic411.com/index.php?/topic/31056-x930bt-video-bypass-tested-and-confirmed/