Ok, I think I have figured it out through info provided by some smart people, and then also the guys over at pac.
Basically, as I understand it, I will use a tr7 option #12 which allows me to input a constant +12 trigger for a pre determined amount of time (something i can set) then if and ONLY if that time is met the tr7 will output +12 volts for as long as the input trigger is activated. Basically the tr7 is acting like a delayed output, which is fine.
I can take the siren output from my aftermarket alarm, connect it to the tr7. Then take the tr7 output and connect it to a relay. Connect the horn output from the aftermarket alarm to the relay and ground the relay. I then would have a pulsed output on the relay that is delayed and triggers ONLY if the alarm goes off and the siren is triggered for 2 seconds or longer.
I will loose about 2 seconds time in the beginning of the alarm trigger of the siren going off, but thats ok if I can maintain it going off. A neat side effect will be that instead of the siren being the shock sensor noise maker, the factory alarm chirp which is a rather higher pitched chirp will be for the warn away of the alarm. Also, This can all be done without going into the engine bay and having to run wires there. kinda neat i think.