well,
I removed the passenger door panel and tested every wire that runs in the passenger door grommet and found none that had 12V hot. So then I moved into the passenger kick panel and tested every wire in the connectors that I could reach and again found none that had 12V hot while the vehicle was turned on.
So I ended up just taping into Fuse 41(retained acc power) in the passenger kickpanel. I couldn't get to the back of the fuse panel to see the color of the wire on fuse 41, so I just removed the fuse and soldered a wire to the circuit side of the fuse.
I'm going to buy one of http://www.partsexpress.com/pe/showdetl.cfm?&Partnumber=071-585and use it to properly tap into the circuit.
I still need to identify the reverse wire, just didn't have time today.
Russell