I haven't got around to the re-pairing, to see if the BT volume was any better(I will tonight for sure)
as for the IPod adapter..I'm on the latest version of the IPhone's firmware(1.1.1) and my HU is a Z2 with the image for the bypass(D/L from here) It also has the freeze patch/firmware installed.
Although I know it's sad, but the sole person that I know that has an Ipod for sure, can't seem to find it. 
Some people were having this same issue with their Nano's, which makes me think that it could possibly be my phone.
http://forums.ilounge.com/showthread.php?t=116570
But also, and being that others are having no issues, and being that I don't quit understand how the IPBus wires could be backwards as per this FAQ
14. I can control my XM/iPod adapter but I'm getting no sound, what gives?
You have your ipbus cables backwards, reverse them. If that doesn't work make sure your positive and ground wires to the XM unit are attached properly
makes me want to revisit the back of my Z2. I don't remember there being a way to get them backwards, and I do not have the XM module
I apprieciate you guys helping me out 
I apologize for stinking this thread up with IPhone stuff. Ducatiboy(or other mods) if you want, I can start another thread and you can move it over. Because I really have a long story to tell, as to what I'm trying to achieve. It's a long sob story about, my music being stolen(car stolen), and me trying to get those backups from a modded Xbox(WMA) to play on my Z2.(WMA or wrong bitrate) If I can get this to work, I may buy an Ipod just to keep in my truck.