After playing with various settings, I have a solution that works perfectly. My goal when starting this project was to:
1) RIP each DVD once and store it at the highest quality at a reasonable file size.
2) The file must play on all devices including my Linux MythTV server, my iPhone, my kids iPod 120, and my F900BT (front and rear screen)
3) At least 2 sound tracks must be available. 5.1 AC3 for the home theater, and stereo for other devices
4) Chapter breaks must be preserved, and all other crap (FBI warning, pre-views, etc) must be stripped off.
5) all black bars must be cropped off t