I'd recommend baselineing the software. Meaning, put a standard retail distribution of either 2.0, or 3.0 on the AVIC. Then, follow the instructions in the forums for the hardware bypass http://www.avic411.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=17013.
Basically, once you move the pin, take the parking break wire (green) and mute wire (yellow), and connect them to the ground for the radio to the vehicle. Both the mute wire and parking break wire have to be grounded together to the ground of the vehicle (same ground the radio uses - should be a black wire).