So after some more testing I found that you can use the Apple 30 pin cable and a separate 3.5mm M-M cable. But it appears that its my iPod that's incompatible. I have a, what I believe is, 4th generation iPod Photo. My wife has a 5th generation iPod video. My iPod doesn't work with my Pioneer or in her Nissan Rogue. But her iPod works in her car and with my stereo. So I'm now shopping for a new iPod.