Blown speakers are cause from too much distortion. I wouldn't recommend just changing out your speakers every time they blow. Thats like doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
As for the whole different sound, it's either the amp can't produce that much power or something is wrong with the wiring. Wire up the speakers to the deck and not the amp and see if it still does it. If it does, then something is wrong with your deck. If not, something is either wrong with your wiring to the amp/speakers or there is something wrong with the amp or your amp settings are s